In this special column named ‘The Babies Cue x Parenthood Series’ we will be showcasing the incredible stories of parents within our community. Get an exclusive glimpse into their parenting philosophies and daily routines.
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Meet Charles Lim (A Father of 2 Children)
Tell us a little about yourself.
I am Charles, Co-Founder of Perfect Nature. I studied Mechanical Engineering at NTU, and I have spent several years in the mechanical engineering industry. In my previous roles, I have designed and patented components for the automotive and semiconductor industries. These experiences fueled my passion for product design and innovation.
Out of work, I am a proud dad to two amazing kids, mastering the art of juggling work and family life. As a working dad, it can get tough but it has also been a fun and laughter-filled rollercoaster ride that has taught me a thing or two about teamwork and time management.
How many children do you have? What are his/her/their names?
We have 2 children, Rui Qi (4 YO Girl) and Rui Sheng (2 YO Boy). We picked their names with the help of our families.
Why did you decide to have your child/children? How did you think having children would affect your life?
Both my wife and I have always wanted children. Our parenthood journey has been a fulfilling one thus far and our children are truly our source of joy.
There has definitely been a shift in priorities and an increased sense of responsibility. Our focus is now always on the well-being and needs of our children, both consciously and subconsciously. Let me share an example. Recently, we went on a day trip to JB without the kids. It was supposed to be a day for us to eat, get a massage, and spend time as a couple, but we ended up spending the bulk of our time and our Ringgits shopping for kids’ clothes instead.
Describe your knowledge and/or experiences with children prior to becoming a parent. Did you prepare for parenting? If so, how did you prepare?
We did not really read up on parenting books, nor follow any particular school of thought. We just picked up what makes the most sense to us, and followed our instincts. Of course, communication is very important to ensure my wife and I are aligned on the way we parent. We also seek advice and tips from our own mums and dads.
How and where did you learn about pregnancy and childbirth? Were your expectations and knowledge of the prenatal and birth period accurate?
Though we are in the digital age where anything can be learned online, it was definitely helpful that we took the prenatal class organized by the hospital during our first pregnancy.
What has been the most meaningful part of parenting for you?
Witnessing our children’s growth, both physically and emotionally, and being a part of their journey to discover the world has brought much meaning and fun to my life. Every simple moment of laughter, shared experiences and the knowledge that we as parents are helping shape their lives in a (hopefully) positive way make every challenge and sacrifice worthwhile.
What had been the most difficult part of parenting for you?
I feel that communication with our children and as a couple is the most important, yet also the most difficult part of parenting. I am a man of few words, but I know that I need to make a conscious effort to convey my thoughts across so that my kids too will pick this up and express themselves. Young children have limited vocabulary, and hence often rely heavily on non-verbal communication such as gestures and facial expressions. We as parents need to be attuned to these cues to understand their needs and also be self-aware of our own body and verbal language.
Aligning the teaching methods between parents and knowing who’s the ‘good cop/bad cop’ each time is also important in order not to send mixed messages to the kids. There is no ‘more experienced’ parent between the two of us, so it is really about working this out together as a team.
Who inspires you to become a better parent?
My father-in-law. He is very hands-on with his grandkids, and also encourages active communication, which is something that resonates well with me. The children love him, so he must be doing something right!
What is your personal motto?
“Not everyday is a Sunday, but you can have a sundae everyday.”
It’s about seeking a balance between recognizing life’s ups and downs while finding joy in small, delightful moments.
Do you have any word of advice for other parents who are starting their own families?
Prioritize communication, and learn as you go along. Parenting does not come with a manual, so talk it out, be open to advice but also trust yours and your partner’s instincts. Learn from your experiences and don’t be too hard on yourselves.
What do you do in your free time as self care? How do you unwind?
I try to draw and paint and do a little bit of bouldering when I can find the time.
What is one thing you are grateful for?
I am grateful for the support structure provided by both of our families. It takes a village to raise a child, and I am thankful this village speaks the same ‘language’.
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